Why women underplay intelligence?

Recently read an article in Newspaper "I just can’t handle you". It was related to why men cant handle women today and does that mean they are not able to take their rising strength. But it also highlighted that women tend to underplay intelligence and "showing her weakness is where a woman’s greatest strength lies".

For all those men who are reading this blog, this is not a comparison with Men but a thought for all of us, so your opinions are well appreciated.

Women Intelligence should be unquestioned as we have seen our mothers, who don’t have any master’s degrees but they are our doctors, psychiatrist, teachers and above all best friends. They have given us the intelligence we have today and made us what we are. Further, they have incredible knowledge in handling budgets, articulation of thoughts, improvising moods based on the situation at home and many such arts which are difficult to elaborate in words.

This article also referenced that pass percentage of girls in CBSE exams is always higher than boys and over the years they would out number men in the professional domain.

So, the question is why women underplay intelligence?

Most talked about Movie, chak de!! which was all about women power had shown the problems which women have to face if they want to carve a niche for themselves. It showcased when they were to play against a men's team, they were not sure if they should play the match or not. Though they won the match finally but what was the reason for initial inhibition.

Some opinions from men:

"We know this was what used to be there in the past, people were brought up in that way and the trend continued for long but is slowly but surely fading at least in big cities and among educated people, though it takes time to let go old trends. Men have their ego and women can adjust better and women are expected to compromise more than men because they are more capable of doing so"

"Women are neither dumb nor underplay intelligence but vacillate quite a bit or so has been my experience"

Though there would be other thoughts but appears that men appreciate the role of women and are aware of their intelligence, then what is that which makes them hesitant?

Some facts, as seen in India are if they act intelligent & compete they are thought to be aggressive and if they underplay they are well accepted, so they prefer to keep quite than exhibit their thoughts.

Similar experiences have been faced by women in the professional world. If a woman is performing well in a role, people start linking her to bad character while she was actually at her intelligent best. So, women get confused that what level of intelligence should be exhibited so that they are well accepted.

So, is acceptance the only reason or many more...please comment.

Walk of Life..

When you step out in the world and start walking ...a new journey has begun. From childhood till adolescence, the fortunate of us, have a hand to hold and guide us to the right direction. We tumble and they pick us up and bring us to level where we learn to walk straight and choose a path. Slowly the firm grip of the hand loosens and we are free to tread our paths. This is when the walk of life actually begins.

We meet people and who come up as acquaintances and some of them become friends. We laugh with them, in the moments of their happiness, share jokes and daily experiences and feel that they bring out the best in us. In the process we build up relations which are named as friends, boy friends, girl friends, colleagues and at times eye candies whom we would love to talk and know them, but the shyness or some other reasons stop us from approaching them. But these faces, these names and these relations become your reason to live and be happy. Then there are times when we fight with them on petty issues and sometimes these fights make us leave them abruptly.

With each person we meet we get to know a unique drop in the ocean which looks similar to us but has a entirely different soul. Some people you remember as your good friends who had been with you in all times, but some you would love to hate, forget and even curse meeting them for once.

Question is why do these people ever come to our life, what was their role and did they perform their role to give us a positive or a negative thought. It is related to the people who we knew as friends, those whom we loved and couldn't imagine our life without them. But as we move on we meet new people, start sharing similar feelings for them and walk of life continues….

Other than people life gives us experiences such as scoring the highest grade, getting your first job, your first salary, your first visit abroad which at times makes us ride high on the clouds or take us on top of the world. We are thrilled by the thoughts of achievement and become confident that no one can hurt or dismantle the lucky state. But then there are downfalls, again another experience which makes you depressed. At times the pain becomes so hard that we feel like killing ourselves. At that hour we never think of the positive side of what we have gained and everything seems lost.

Question asked at that moment is why this happened to me and what would I do beyond this. We seem to loose a direction in life and trust in ourselves. But a hand, whether it is of a soul known/unknown to you or your inner strength pulls you through and walk of life continues…..

On the way, when we walk our thoughts and personalities change. It changes unimaginably for some or minutely for others, but with each experience of life, we learn a new strength or weakness within us. I have myself changed over the years from a introvert to an extrovert and am thankful to my situations and my friends who have moved out that vulnerability and made me a confident person what I am today, but still it is not the end. Similar could be instances with each one of us and when we look back we can see what we are and what we were.

Question again arises, this is what we are supposed to be or it’s again not meant to be.

Answers to these and many such questions are as unknown as our future but the walk of life continues.....