In the midst of cries and mourning, I looked at the face of my mother and I still recall the blankness. It was 13th March 1994, a darkest day of my life. A couple whom I have seen full of love, commitment and sacrifice in the hardest of times was ripped apart by a mighty decision of God.
Chirping in the corners, jokes by the dinner side and smiles on the faces had all died and was filled with empty spaces and silent walls. We realized the value of togetherness when we looked at families around us smile, their laughter and smiles reminded us of the old times.
That is how our loneliness was defined!!
I realized loneliness as a feeling which makes us run towards relationships. We wish to be around friends to pass our weekends, we indulge in habits to kill away our time and our parents wish us to get married so that we are not left alone in life.
I often wonder why “loneliness” is such a taboo when we were all born as individuals and didn’t bring anyone along. We do become a part of some family but we never take them along when we die. What we take along is our own good/bad deeds which we have done in our lifetime.
When I see around, I see relationships break because one of them feels left alone, I have seen friendships break when people don’t give each other time and I have seen people break when they are left alone by circumstances. The fear of loneliness has unlimited consequences and has lead people to succumb to habits like drugs, addictions, bad habits and many a times suicides. But what remains after them for their families is yet the same thing, loneliness.
In the world of breakups, divorces, neglects and broken relationships caused due to loneliness do we realize the value of togetherness, the bond which god has created especially for us to make sure we are not left alone in this world. Our parents, our friends and our partners are the ones, which god has especially sent for us when he himself couldn’t give much of his attention to all.
On the contrary we often seek loneliness when we are pressurized for time. “Please leave me alone” is a sentence often spoken when we want to concentrate or are going through a sad state. Why do we need time with ourselves then, because we are individuals and we do have our own space which we often don’t cherish.
I have realized over the years that loneliness is a boon in itself and we have so many options to make the most of it. Some options are:
• Nurture our habits, past dreams and learn things which are creative.
• Help others who have been left alone by fate
• Submerge ourselves in the sake of god who has given us this beautiful life
• Spend time with children, who are a gift of god to us to relive our childhood
We never know, if our breath will flow the next second in time. So unpredictable is life and I feel we should make the most of this life and try our best to leave only smiles behind.
Har Pal yahan jee bhar jiyo, kal yeh saman fir ho na ho!!
This blog is dedicated to my mother, my pillar of strength.
